Monday, November 26, 2012

The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman & Ross Campbell

Early in the summer I read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and loved it. He teaches that we all feel love in different ways or languages. So if we can learn to speak the language of those in our lives (siblings, spouses, friends) we can build stronger relationships.  I was excited to find out he also wrote one for children.  He says that most children don't have a specific language until about 5 so until then we need to focus on using all 5 languages to meet their needs.  My daughter is almost 2 and is changing her love language all the time, but I really wanted to read this now so I can learn the signs to watch for as she develops her love language.
"Young children are not subtle about asking for our love. They are noisy and often do things that seem inappropriate for an adult way of thinking. When we realize that they are pleading for us to spend time with them, to hold them, to give ourselves to them in a personal manner, we will remember that they are children and that we have the precious responsibility to fill their love tanks first, and then train them to move on in their journey."

Love Language #1: Physical Touch
Mark 10:  14. But when Jesus saw it, he was much displeased, and said unto them, Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. 16. And he took them up in his arms, put his hands upon them, and blessed them.

Love Language #2: Words of Affirmation
"The greatest enemy toward encouraging our children is anger."

Love Language #3: Quality Time
"Because your children will learn more from talking with you than you will probably ever realize, it is crucial that you spend time in healthy conversation with them, no matter what their age."

Love Language #4: Gifts
"The child's emotional love tank needs to be kept filled in order for the gift to express heartfelt love."

Love Language #5: Acts of Service
"Because service to a child is constant for so many years, and takes place in and around so many other obligations, parents can forget that the daily and mundane acts they perform are expressions of love with long-term effects."

Thursday, November 15, 2012

The Book of Mormon

I am not a political person. It is a subject that frustrates me and annoys me.  So this post will be the only political thing you hear from me. And I am only posting this because of where I happen to be reading in the Book of Mormon right now.  I am honestly rather surprised with the number of people (especially Mormons) who are still posting to facebook and emailing nasty, name calling, end of the world, dooms day kind of things. The election is over. What's done is done. It is time to start acting like Christians! Show our faith in God like the Nephites and not murmur like the Lamanites! How many times do we read in the Book of Mormon when the Nephites are subject to the Lamanites? (don't read too far into that sentence!)

Mosiah 21:15 ...yet the Lord did not see fit to deliver them out of bondage

Mosiah 24:
14. And I will also ease the burdens which are put upon your shoulders, that even you cannot feel them upon your backs, even while you are in bondage; and this will I do that ye may stand as witnesses for me hereafter, and that ye may know of a surety that I, the Lord God, do visit my people in their afflictions.
 15. And now it came to pass that the burdens which were laid upon Alma and his brethren were made light; yea, the Lord did strengthen them that they could bear up their burdens with ease, and they did submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord.
 16. And it came to pass that so great was their faith and their patience that the voice of the Lord came unto them again, saying: Be of good comfort, for on the morrow I will deliver you out of bondage.

Mosiah 2:22 And behold, all that he requires of you is to keep his commandments; and he has promised you that if ye would keep his commandments ye should prosper in the land; and he never doth vary from that which he hath said; therefore, if ye do keep his commandments he doth bless you and prosper you.

And last
D&C 6:36 Look unto me in every thought; doubt not, fear not.

Now let me hear an AMEN!

Saturday, November 3, 2012

No Doubt About It by Sheri Dew

No Doubt About It was a great reminder of my basic beliefs as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. Where we came from, what we are doing here on earth and our ultimate goal to make it back to our Father in Heaven.  The chapter that hit me the most was about being on the Lord's side of the line. "Our physical and spiritual safety lies in never even getting close to the line that separates light from dark, good from evil." Growing up sometimes I thought my parents were living too "Mormon extreme".  For example, the church encourages us to stay away from any addictive substances so that includes caffinated drinks.  So in my house we were not allowed to drink Coke or Pepsi...even when they started selling caffeine free Coke/Pepsi my parents still wouldn't buy it.  It was just their way of staying away from the line. In this chapter Sheri Dew stresses the importance of  being honest. A quality that can so easily blur the line until it destroys businesses, families and cultures.  I love that one of the questions we answer to receive a temple recommend is are you honest in all your dealings.  It is the question that pops into my head when it would be easy to say a little white lie when I don't want to go somewhere or do something that inconveniences me. Are you honest in all your dealings? Think how much better the world would be if more people answered that question every night before going to bed.

A few of my favorite quotes from the book:
2 Timothy 4:7 I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith
"Make no mistake about it: Lucifer will do anything to derail, disappoint, dishearten, discourage and deceive us."

"It is in the moments of disappointment, heartache, and loneliness that we often make the decision that forge our faith, mold our character and fortify our convictions about the only source of strength and solace that satisfies. And that is Jesus Christ."

"The Savior's light is greater than any heartache or loneliness, more powerful than any kind of pain, stronger than any weakness or temptation."

"Mothers are the emotional glue that holds the family together."

"I fear that some of us understand just enough about the gospel to feel guilty - guilty that we are not measuring up to some undefined standard - but not enough about the Atonement to feel the peace and strength, the power and mercy, it affords us."

"How many of us are spiritually just getting by rather than learning how to access the divine power available to those who seek after it?"

"Either we have a prophet, or we don't. If we don't, we have nothing. If we do, we have everything."

"It means placing Christ and Christ only at the center of our lives so that the vanities and philosophies of men lose their addictive appeal."