Early in the summer I read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and loved it. He teaches that we all feel love in different ways or languages. So if we can learn to speak the language of those in our lives (siblings, spouses, friends) we can build stronger relationships. I was excited to find out he also wrote one for children. He says that most children don't have a specific language until about 5 so until then we need to focus on using all 5 languages to meet their needs. My daughter is almost 2 and is changing her love language all the time, but I really wanted to read this now so I can learn the signs to watch for as she develops her love language.
"Young children are not subtle about asking for our love. They are noisy and often do things that seem inappropriate for an adult way of thinking. When we realize that they are pleading for us to spend time with them, to hold them, to give ourselves to them in a personal manner, we will remember that they are children and that we have the precious responsibility to fill their love tanks first, and then train them to move on in their journey."
Love Language #1: Physical Touch
Mark 10: 14. But when Jesus saw it, he was much displeased, and said unto them, Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. 16. And he took them up in his arms, put his hands upon them, and blessed them.
Love Language #2: Words of Affirmation
"The greatest enemy toward encouraging our children is anger."
Love Language #3: Quality Time
"Because your children will learn more from talking with you than you will probably ever realize, it is crucial that you spend time in healthy conversation with them, no matter what their age."
Love Language #4: Gifts
"The child's emotional love tank needs to be kept filled in order for the gift to express heartfelt love."
Love Language #5: Acts of Service
"Because service to a child is constant for so many years, and takes place in and around so many other obligations, parents can forget that the daily and mundane acts they perform are expressions of love with long-term effects."